Ideal age gap VS Age is just a number! and Social Norms

Ideal age gap is a societal norm.

People used to accept relationships with large age gap only in the world of Hollywood.

In the real world however, people disapprove of them.

Expressions like  “Sugar Daddy”, “Sugar Baby”, “Boy toy”, “Cougar” are uttered with contempt.

So what’s the Ideal age gap?

An ideal  gap should be few years.

Thus, many people believe that the man should be older than the woman, but only by a few years.

If he is older he can be nothing else than a sugar daddy.

Love maybe blind but a study of 3,000 people by Andrew Francis and Hugo Mialon, professors in the Department of Economics at Emory University in Atlanta shows that a larger age gap is related to a higher divorce rate.

A five-year age gap statistically means you’re 18 percent more likely to divorce (versus just 3 percent with a 1-year age difference), and that rate rises to 39 percent for a 10-year age difference and 95 percent for a 20-year age gap.

Age Gap                                           Divorce rate

1 year                                                 3%

5 year                                                 18%

10 years                                              39%

20 years                                              95%

Man can afford to have younger wives ( patriarchal thinking)

A population survey achieved in 2013, US demonstrate that only 1% from male population can afford to have much younger wives.

For women, only 0,3% could afford a 20-year age gap.


Age difference                                                                           Percentage of All Married Couples

1.Husband 20+ years older than wife                                              1.0

2.Husband 15–19 years older than wife                                          1.6

3.Husband 10–14 years older than wife                                          4.8

4.Husband 6–9 years older than wife                                              11.6

5.Husband 4–5 years older than wife                                               13.3

6.Husband 2–3 years older than wife                                               20.4

7.Husband and wife within 1 year                                                     33.2

8.Wife 2–3 years older than husband                                               6.5

9.Wife 4–5 years older than husband                                              3.3

10.Wife 6–9 years older than husband                                            2.7

11.Wife 10–14 years older than husband                                         1.0

12.Wife 15–19 years older than husband                                         0.3

13.Wife 20+ years older than husband                                             0.3

Sugar Daddy

According to the patriarchal model, men never get too old to be seen as desirable, especially when they are rich and powerful.

The words used to describe these men are ‘distinguished’, ‘respectable’, ‘and accomplished.

That’s why people accept the age gap between Trump and his wife.

To the question launched on social media  – Is Donald Trump a sugar daddy? Most people answered that Trump is not a sugar daddy. Being such a flamboyant billionaire, he can have any woman he wants.

Melany is a trophy wife who would prefer to be a sugar baby but who became First Lady of the United States – more or less

However, people look at Melania with sympathy, some consider her a victim of an abusive husband.

On the other hand, Trump is the patriarchal model, which suggests that women look for partners who can provide them with a good lifestyle (bread –winners).

 Sugar Mummy

What about older women?

Older women are well, just old.

The mental image of an older woman is that of a hag.

According to the patriarchal mentality, older women have to give up being attractive and settle for the joys of motherhood and financial security.

So, people disapprove of older women who play the same games as the ‘Sugar Daddies’ providing a lifeline for handsome but jobless young men.

That makes people very uncomfortable.

Sugar daddies exist everywhere. They are a global phenomenon.

If the woman is significantly older than the man, he is probably a gold-digger and the woman, a cougar or sugar mummy.

A situation people strongly condemn.

 Age is just a number (???)

Age  is only  a number is a saying more accurate for men than for women.

But when we are talking about Brigitte Macron – for her, indeed:

Age is nothing else than  a number!

Nobody can say that she is a cougar and that he is a Boy toy.

Yet talks about Brigitte Macron and her husband inflame the world.

No one is really bothered about the age difference between President Donald Trump and his wife Melania Trump, which is exactly the same as the Macrons’.

Powerful older men are allowed to have houses, jet planes, and young wives.

For a much older woman, it is forbidden to have a handsome young guy.

Only when we are talking about old-fashioned relationships.

He loves her for who she is, and she is a lot for him – she is a friend, counselor, a supporter.

Looking at them, people should understand that beyond the age gap,

As long as the couple has the same goals for the relationship then it can and does work.

Age is indeed just a number in an adult, healthy, respectful and loving relationship.




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